In general these issues come down to this simple question: Is winning this current "battle" about hair length or use of make-up more important to you than a well rounded, happy, productive, secure child-soon-to-be-adult ? Isn't the final result the important issue? Yes, you can probably win these individual "struggles". However, look at what you lose when you "win" by forcing the issue with threats and punishments. By "winning" you have proved that you are tougher, louder, and controlling beyond what is necessary. What may you "lose" ? - What about respect? Especially if you can even win these fire fights---IF you use your head first, then your mouth. On Hair and Boys: Hair is organic. It grows back again. The metallic green color can be cut later, or re-grown in time, even if the head was shaved. Isn't it easier to simply say, "It's kind of cute "baldy". And easier on the blood pressure? Or if it is too, too long for your taste, you can choose to remain silent, or Offer to teach him how to perm it. It is perfectly AOK to insist on frequent cleaning and brushing. Professional styling after a perm could be just the ticket you need. When I was growing up comments like: “When are you going to apply for dog tags?” were common, and did not work. A coach insisting on short hair did. Keeping long hair clean and coifed was time consuming and expensive. Easiest method: Talk to his girl friend. If she says something about loving the bowling ball look, you’ll find yourself stocking up on ball wax and buffing cloths. On Make-Up for Girls: Lest anyone misunderstand, the first time I saw my, then 12-year old, niece after a several year period without personal contact, she looked to me like a 26-year old hooker, and I said so. Not a particularly "smooth move". Girls have a deep motivation to copy their mothers. Make-up is simply one of the areas of culture and body adornment, where they want to "be grown-up". Early. They want to experiment. Peer pressure is certainly a part of the problem. Perhaps enrolling your new make-up experimenter in a young woman’s grooming and appearance course might be a simpler way to get closer to what you want? Let her girl friends envy her, and copy her. Even a correspondence course is better than nothing.
(c) Copyright 2006: George Wallace brings 28 years in the classroom to bear on this subject. He recently published a book on religion which lashes out at nearly all of the comfortable ideas about God, organized religion, and the priesthood. His pithy suggestions for a return to a God-centered religion will interest everyone. This article may be freely reprinted so long as all copyright attributions, and the full content of this resource box are included. www.OhGodIsThatYou.com
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