Refusal to Work, Part 1 This could be the result of years of inappropriate training, accumulated deeply ingrained that will take very special efforts to correct. First, eliminate the possibility of a physical (medical) condition. Second, recognize that this problem is Your Problem. You created it, you will have to correct it. It will Not Be Easy. Third, think about and try to decide just how far you are willing to travel to make this change in your child. Refusal to Work, Part 2 Here is a brief list of a few options: The Sir Walter Raleigh Rule: "No work - - no eat." Deprivation of "entertainment" The parents must change a lot of things that they do now Tough Love This problem can afflict a child between 5 and 25. The age of the child at the time a decision to "do something about it" is made Is important, as different factors enter into the equation. Refusal to Work, Part 3 "Talk Story #5" One year a student named "Jason", went into a "no-work" mode at school and at home. His grades plummeted and all home chores were also going undone. Punishments didn't work. Bribery didn't work. As the parents and I collaborated, eventually they came to the decision to use "deprivation" as they'd come to the realization that "his room" had become "his castle" and was the real center of "his universe", with many kinds of entertainment. The parents decided to use a gradual systematic withdrawal of his "Toys & Things". Eventually nothing was left in his room except his bed, dresser, and clothes. Finally, even the walls had to be repainted and the window had to be painted over, to remove the entertainment value of that distraction as well. At school, following the agreed upon plan, I had stopped trying to get him to do his work, leaving it up to him to decide to rejoin the real world. After five weeks of total boredom: going home and going to his room to look at a gray wall, being asked to do no chores, Jason came out of his room and carried out the trash, unasked. Total time to change: about three months. When asked about it later, Jason's only remark was, "I wanted to see if you really meant what you said." Give the kid credit, he was testing his parents.
(c) Copyright 2006: George Wallace brings 28 years in the classroom to bear on this subject. He recently published a book on religion which lashes out at nearly all of the comfortable ideas about God, organized religion, and the priesthood. His pithy suggestions for a return to a God-centered religion will interest everyone. This article may be freely reprinted so long as all copyright attributions, and the full content of this resource box are included. www.OhGodIsThatYou.com
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