You can also seek professional help for your child right at school. Go see the teacher(s). Ask for help. Go see the principal. Ask for help. ? Ask for a referral to the school psychologist for testing. ? There may be special programs which will be of tremendous benefit for your child. Sometimes your child will only need help for a short time, perhaps only a year, or two. ? This testing, if you had to pay for it yourself, would cost several hundred dollars! ? Be persistent. If the answer is "No." Go higher and ask again. ? This is the second most valuable bit of advice. ? Always keep dated records of yours visits to the school. ? A $1.89 spiral notebook with your child's name on the cover is a magic wand. Especially when you need it the most, when your child has problems. ? Record the questions you ask and the answers you get. Deliberately ask how to spell certain words, especially any you don’t understand. Say, that it is for your lawyer to look at later. ? Also record: •To whom did you speak? • What questions did you ask? (you can save time & write these in before you leave home.) • What were the answers? • What was the date? • Did the person call back as promised? • When did the person call? • What did they say (as you understood it) on the phone? ? This is called effective communication, making you a more effective parent. ? Always refer to your records in your phone calls and letters when seeking help. i.e. : "When I checked my records of my visit on October 16, 2004, I find that---." ? Be specific. Name Names. ? Repeat the questions and the answers you were given, by whom. ? Repeat the promises made to you, by whom. ? State the results to date. ? Do not give up. Keep going higher, keep asking. This is your child. If you give up, why shouldn't your child? A nine-hundred pound Gorilla Problem Unfortunately, a few "school people" tend to look down on the clients they serve: the taxpayer and the parents and their children. Yes, we know they deny it - - - so? There is no rule that says that "school people" know best. Frequently more than a few "school people" have learned not to "tip the boat," they tend to stay "within the box," and here you come with a nine-hundred pound gorilla problem, and they become: • defensive, • afraid of getting wet, • "being- different" • Maybe they will lose a banana? • Maybe they will have to follow the rules?, • Maybe they will have to admit they were wrong?, • Do you really care? If necessary, go up: (Even though in this list, you go down.) Go up to higher Authority. • To the County, • To the State, • Even to the Federal level. ? A 39 cent stamp has incredible power. • Get your child the help he / she needs. • There can be very severe penalties for school systems and school personnel that do not serve children that they are required to serve by law. Write to: ? County Superintendent of Schools, ? State Superintendent of Schools, ? State Representative, ? State Senator, ? U. S. Representative, ? U. S. Senator, ? the U. S. Department of Education. The one and only 687 pound Gorilla Mom They may laugh at you behind your back, but being the only 687 pound Gorilla Mom in the school has some compensations. ? Your child will be served. ? You can wear funky purple & grungy clothes and feel "Good". ? You will have new respect for yourself and from your child. Warning ! Warning ! Warning ! Warning! There are problems that you must understand from the first. Your child also needs to have an understanding of them as well. A situation has arisen, developed, etc. You go charging in seeking help. Please remember, what you are really asking, is for the school personnel to pay more attention to your child. ? When they respond to your request, they will begin to see more things that your child does: ? Good, and very possibly "not so good". ? Be a good parent, don't go all defensive, accept. that 99.99999% of children are a usual and normal mixture of behaviors that can be labeled. It is possible to love your child and dislike what they do. ? Deal with the problems, praise the praiseworthy and get on with dealing with the problem. ? Chances are very slim that "Somebody is out to "get" your child." •You asked for attention, you got it. •How can the very people you asked to closely watch your child be picking on him / her by doing what you asked them to do? •They have become "your" agents. They are working for you, reporting to you. •Remember the adage: Be careful what you ask for, for you may get it. •You must be aware that your child can/may/probably will attempt to take charge, take control, even threaten the school personnel involved with him / her. •If you let this happen, or condone it in any way, your child always loses. Your child has now become a bully.
(c) Copyright 2006: George Wallace brings 28 years in the classroom to bear on this subject. He recently published a book on religion which lashes out at nearly all of the comfortable ideas about God, organized religion, and the priesthood. His pithy suggestions for a return to a God-centered religion will interest everyone. This article may be freely reprinted so long as all copyright attributions, and the full content of this resource box are included. www.OhGodIsThatYou.com
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