Four Concepts for Growing A Healthy Adult Growing A Healthy Adult - Concept 1 There are two conditions that appear to ensure an emotionally healthy adult: and can be our goals. #1. a feeling of one's worth as a person. #2. a belief that you can cope with life. For a feeling of self-worth a child needs an early attachment to at least one adult who is warm and supportive and which leads to strong self-esteem and belief in one's self. The belief in one's self worth comes from successes at important tasks while growing up. Growing A Healthy Adult - Concept 2 The belief in one's self worth comes from successes at important tasks while growing up: appropriate levels of social success: praise from peers. accepting appropriate responsibility a sufficient level of success in creative tasks: music or art, team sports, and learning. Growing A Healthy Adult - Concept 3 Coping skills which are needed are: persistence at tasks, flexibility and creativity in problem solving and personal relationships, and the ability to delay self-gratification. OK, we have the goals, how do we get there? The answer is that there is no single answer for all. Each child seems to need a "hand-crafted set of parents", that can adapt to the needs of the child. For single parents: this is not an attack on you ! Simply try to find a role model for your child: i.e. Big Brother, Big Sister programs. Possibly a relative. Why a set of parents? Children are high energy beings, and can quickly "wear down", "wear out" only one parent. This is why extended families are so valuable, they spread the energy load over a group of adults and over a span of time. Growing A Healthy Adult- Concept 4 There are common denominators for nearly all children: Children need limits, clearly defined lines and rules. Parents must be aware of the effects of their own guilt, and refuse to let that guilt permit them to overindulge the child with affection, lack of rules and limits, and "things". Children need to grow to independence, not dependency. Children need consistency. Children need structure. Children need two, or more, "parents".
(c) Copyright 2006: George Wallace brings 28 years in the classroom to bear on this subject. He recently published a book on religion which lashes out at nearly all of the comfortable ideas about God, organized religion, and the priesthood. His pithy suggestions for a return to a God-centered religion will interest everyone. This article may be freely reprinted so long as all copyright attributions, and the full content of this resource box are included. www.OhGodIsThatYou.com
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